When people wrong us or treat us unfairly, forgiveness is the furthest thing from our mind. It does not feel good to be taken advantage of and violated. It feels reasonable to hold on to grudges and resentment to punish whoever hurt us. But as you may have heard, holding resentment and anger and unforgiveness hurts us more than it hurts the person that hurt you. This is why Jesus asked us to forgive any wrongdoer seven times seventy-seven times. Nelson Mandela also said that unforgiveness is like swallowing poisoning and expecting the other person to die.
So yes, the saints all agree that we must forgive. But why is forgiveness necessary for us normal people trying to make it in a cruel world? Keep reading to learn the reason why you must use forgiveness as a potent manifesting tool to achieve the life you desire.
What Forgiveness is and isn’t
First, let’s define what forgiveness means. The textbook definition for ‘forgive’ is to stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offence, flaw, or mistake. That is all that is required to forgive.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what the other person did was right. It doesn’t mean that you have to maintain a relationship with the person that wronged you. Additionally, it doesn’t mean that you can’t pursue legal and criminal proceedings if the person broke the law when they hurt you. Forgiveness is simply a tool that you use to release negative emotions that may be blocking you from manifesting your dream life.
Why You Should Forgive
As a conscious manifestor, you cannot afford to delay your manifestations by holding on to negative emotions. Forgiveness allows you to release yourself from the incident and the person that hurt you. It allows you to move on with your life. Refusing to forgive is like choosing to relive the hurtful incident again and again. You are unable to move on to brighter and bigger things and remain stuck in the past.
Do not sabotage your manifestations by holding on to resentments and unforgiveness. These negative thoughts and feelings will only attract more unjust experiences in your life that require forgiveness.
How To Forgive
If you are finding it hard to forgive, consider using this method.
1. Recall the incident and allow yourself to feel whatever feelings come up. You will probably feel hurt and angry. You may feel ashamed and embarrassed for the position you put yourself in.
2. Acknowledge the feelings. What do the feelings look and feel and smell like? Sit with the feelings and listen to what they are saying to you. There may be some meaningful lessons they are trying to teach you.
3. Once you acknowledge the feelings, they will start to feel less heavy and may start dissipating.
4. Go into a meditative state and imagine the person that hurt you sitting in front of you. Use a clearing technique to forgive them. One great one is simply telling them “I forgive you. Do you forgive me?” it doesn’t matter whether you feel like you did nothing wrong.
Or you can use the hoopnoponopono technique and state “I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you.” This works well when trying to forgive a situation or forgive yourself.
Release Judgement and Blame
Do you want a fast-track method to avoid forgiveness altogether? Release yourself from judgement and blame. If you never judge or blame others or yourself, you will never have to forgive yourself. Give people the benefit of the doubt that they are doing their best with what they have. If they knew better, they would do better. This doesn’t mean that you hang around broken people that will cause you harm/ Just don’t judge or blame them when they do something to you. Accept responsibility for your life and everything that happens in it.
Final Word On Forgiveness
If you want to manifest a life full of joy, love and peace you have to embody those emotions in the present moment. Unforgiveness requires that you hold on to negative emotions like anger, hatred and resentfulness. This will only attract more negative situations in your life that cause you to feel more anger and hatred. So, forgiveness or letting go of anger and resentfulness is for your absolute benefit. Forgiveness leaves the hurtful incident in the past where it belongs and allows you to live a happier life in the present and future.