Calling in The One By Katherine Woodward Thomas

Calling in “The One” By Katherine Woodward Thomas

I first bought Calling in The One 10 years ago when I was 27 and eager to settle down. It’s funny how back then I was already worried that I will end up single and unmarried unless I took drastic action. Cue the purchase of many programs and books in an attempt to meet and marry my soulmate. Well, I’m 37 and I still haven’t met and married my soulmate.

The truth is,  I didn’t really read the book back then… and I didn’t really do any of the programs designed to get me my soulmate. Katherine Woodward Thomas states at the beginning of this book that if you find yourself going months without finishing the program then you have to assess if a loving relationship is really something that you want. I guess back then I still had too many barriers to love. It took me 10 years to finally start and finish Calling in The One. When I had tried previously, I would hit a wall around week 3 of the program and give up.

What changed this time? I took a 100-day challenge to meet a few goals before my 37th birthday and one of the goals was to meet my soulmate. I committed to doing and finishing the program and I really did it. Maybe this time around I am really ready to meet and marry my soulmate. 

How Calling In The One Works

The book is divided into 49 lessons so that you do a lesson every day. She recommends that you carve out 30 minutes every morning to do so. There is the daily lesson reading followed by a practice and a bonus practice. The bonus practices can be done at a later day but this time around I was super committed, so I did both the practices and the bonus practices.

Calling in “The One” By Katherine Woodward Thomas
Will you call in the one in 49 days? This post reviews Calling in The One By Katherine Woodward Thomas.

Activities And Exercises

What kind of practices are you instructed to do in the book? They range from meditations, lots of journaling exercises and a few practical ones like asking someone directly for what you need, forgiving others and so on. I can be a bit lazy, so the meditation exercises were the most exciting for me. I had to push through the journaling exercises, but they were very valuable. I learned a lot about myself from them.

Does Calling In The One Work?

Well, I did complete the 7 weeks of the exercises and drumrolls, please… I didn’t meet and marry my soulmate. However, I am closer to doing so now than I have ever been. I came to realize how limited my view of love is and that I can practice showing love to my family and roommates as I get ready for my soulmate. I am more in touch with who I am and what I need to be happy. My boundaries are stronger.  

I believe the main aim of calling in the one is for the reader to identify the resistance they have towards loving relationships and marriage. For me, it is that I have been feeling I am not good enough and through the exercises in Calling in The One I have come to the realization that I am good enough, perfect even, for the love of my life. And until I am united with my soulmate, I will love myself unconditionally and create a life that lights me up.

The Top Lessons I Learned From The Book.

  1. Practice the love qualities you are seeking in your soulmate on those in your life already. For example, I want a kind and generous man, but I realized that I wasn’t very kind and generous to those already in my life. I have now been working on that. As Katherine says, the only thing missing in our lives is that which we ourselves are not giving.
  2. Give yourself what you want your soulmate to give you. In my case, I need to spoil and indulge myself the same way I expect my soulmate to spoil me. I am now getting used to being spoilt and proudly confess to being a spoilt woman.
  3. You are the only one that will always be with you so you have to give yourself some slack and love yourself unconditionally. From reading the book it is now very clear for me that I will always choose myself and love myself unconditionally. I fight for myself, prioritize my concern and am in my own corner. There is no way I will abandon myself ever again or put myself down in favor of someone else. I am loyal and committed to myself and listen to myself
  4. I am now very determined about setting and enforcing boundaries in order to protect myself.
  5. I have learned to shamelessly ask for what I want and state my position without caring what others think
Will you call in the one in 49 days? This post reviews Calling in The One By Katherine Woodward Thomas.
Will you call in the one in 49 days? This post reviews Calling in The One By Katherine Woodward Thomas.

Memorable Quotes From Calling In The One

  1. A person who wants to create a loving relationship in the near future behaves differently from a person who identifies themselves as being a failure in relationships
  2. We usually get what we anticipate.
  3. It is so important to have integrity with your word. It trains the universe. When we say one thing and then do another, say things that we don’t really mean, or consistently break our word to both others and ourselves, we profoundly diminish our capacity to create the lives that we are hoping to create.
  4. An important part of being marriageable is to be a maker; a person who cultivates a life of beauty, rich texture, and creative work.
  5. The healing and recovery for all addictive behaviors include learning to cultivate a discipline of telling the truth, first to oneself and then to others.
  6. Do you know who usually ends up with great people? Other great people.

In summary, if you want to get married in 7 weeks i.e. by the time you finish this book, I can’t promise that you will. Will the book prepare you to be a better lover? Yes Definitely. My life really is better as a result of reading the book so I would recommend it. Have you read the book? Let me know what you think in the comments below.



This was a very short and easy read just as the author had intended. It is intended for people that want to emulate the lifestyle of the traditionally rich American people and would be most useful for young people starting out e.g. 16 to 19 year olds. I do wish I had read, understood and applied it while I was younger but I still at my 36 years of age picked up a few useful titbits.


Firstly, the author highlights the 7 key values of old money people which are in order

1. Health,
2. Education,
3. Strong work ethic,
4. Etiquette and manners,
5. Financial independence,
6. Family and marriage,
7. Privacy.

Of these I have four as my core values but I will now prioritise all these to be my core values adding an eigth one
8. Spirituality.

Memorable quotes

1. Don’t sleep with men that aren’t gentlemen.
2. Financial Independence is being able to wake up every morning and do what you want to do.
3. Live simply and focus on being and doing more than spending and having.
4. Old Money is being an investor not a consumer
5. Live efficiently and quietly with joy, passion and excitement
6. To live within your means shows that you know yourself. There is no dignity as impressive as living within your means
7. If you only use something once a year or less think about why you are buying it.
8. Don’t buy furniture and household items at retail
9. Less Stuff More Room.
10. Plan for your children’s education even before they are born

Lessons Learned from the Book

1. Find a mentor
2. I currently have enough free time to discover what I enjoy doing both as a vocation and hobby. It would have been awesome to discover this earlier.
3. Prepare a will now and say what needs to be done with your property and body and also what to do in case of life support.
4. Dry brush my body
5. Mascara, eyeshadow and lipstick are sufficient makeup
6. Be calm when investment opportunities arise. If you miss out on this one another will surely come. I wish I knew this earlier before making some unfortunate investments
7. Old money people think very little about cars and don’t buy them new
8. Plan travel in advance and travel for the experience and to learn the culture
9. When choosing a home look at safety, affordability, cleanliness, and neighbourhood. Consider neighbourhood before the house itself better a substandard house in a nice neighbourhood than a nice house in a substandard neighbourhood
10. For décor display your hobbies e.g. for me it would be great movies, cities, books.


In summary the book was quite entertaining and enlightening but it would be extremely useful for younger people starting out as it would prevent them from making some costly investment mistakes.


It appears that there are other belly fat books by Jorge Cruz as this one was a very short read and he kept referring the reader to check out his other books for some more information. Anyway this was still good enough and I picked up on some good information particularly from the interviews he has done with experts located at the end of the book.

Main Points

1. Weight gain is caused by excess carbohydrates and sugar so consume less than 120g of carbs and 16g of sugar daily.
2. Only count your carbs and sugar consumption not calories
3. A great snack is Dark Chocolate (75% and above) and Red Wine (Cabernet). Mmm I can imagine a combination of the two.

Lessons Learned

1. I now only eat whole foods not processed foods. My daily diet consists of legumes, vegetables, eggs, water and meat when the budget allows
2. I don’t eat wheat, sugar or dairy. One expert advised readers to stay away from foods made from flour and sugar.
3. Previously I thought I could eat as many vegetables and legumes as I wanted (following slow carb diet by tim Ferris) but I wasn’t losing weight. I think it may be because legumes and vegetables do have a lot of carbs so now I am counting the amount of carbs I eat even though the source is healthy
4. From one of the interviews I learned that I need to become the kind of woman that the kind of man I am looking for is interested in if I don’t want to end up alone at my 36 years of age 😊
5. There is a correlation between dishonesty and ill health. For optimum health be honest about who you are and what you have and you will live with less stress and ill health
6. No matter your financial situation keep your health insurance up to date


I think the book was good for me it was eye opening in terms of showing me how many carbs I was eating and that I need to reduce my carbs and increase my proteins. This may be challenging due to budgetary constraints but for the time being im eating a lot of eggs and omena to keep up my protein intake. I’ll come back with an update weekly to show if this diet works for me.

4 Hour Body by Tim Ferriss

4 Hour Body is a book that is almost a decade old yet I only recently heard of it from a Tom Bilyeu video that I was watching. Tim Ferriss is a popular figure amongst millennials due to ground-breaking advice he offers through his podcasts, articles and books. I have never really read or applied anything of his, but he has been in my field of consciousness. I got an electronic copy of the book which many have referred to as an encyclopaedia on the human body. Its over 800 pages long and Tim recommends that one only reads the chapters relevant to their situation.

My first question was what a four-hour body is. Is it a body you get while working out 4 hours a week, 4 hours a month, 4 hours forever? Tim clarifies by saying that by following his guidelines you will get an amazing figure just from working out 4 hours in a month. Yep, this book is a hacker’s quick guide to achieving the best results in health, sex, sleep with the minimum amount of required effort.


For me, the most important part of the book was the slow carb diet recommended by Tim which he summarised as:

  1. Avoid White Carbohydrates (Wheat, Rice, Corn, Oats e.t.c)
  2. Stick to the same few meals over and over again
  3. Don’t drink Calories (Stick to water, black, sugarless coffee and tea)
  4. No Fruits
  5. One Binge Day per week

Simple enough to follow. The hard part for me to swallow was staying away from oats and brown rice and understanding the instructions for the cheat day. In fact, while the diet plan is straight forward, I found the rest of the book painful to read and hard to understand as Tim uses lots of technical terms and recommends items not easily available to poor old me in Kenya. Some of his stories and anecdotes were a bit cringey… especially the chapter on sex.


All in all this was an interesting read as one can discover the most effective diets, exercises, sex techniques etc as a lot of research has gone into this work both on Tim himself and on hundreds of test subjects. Unfortunately, a lot of the information is very technical and probably only actionable by someone with a coach that understands the science. The diet itself is easy to follow and I like the main premise of the book which is that you have to take personal responsibility for your health and track your results. When you master your physical self you can master everything else.