Calling in The One By Katherine Woodward Thomas

Calling in “The One” By Katherine Woodward Thomas

I first bought Calling in The One 10 years ago when I was 27 and eager to settle down. It’s funny how back then I was already worried that I will end up single and unmarried unless I took drastic action. Cue the purchase of many programs and books in an attempt to meet and marry my soulmate. Well, I’m 37 and I still haven’t met and married my soulmate.

The truth is,  I didn’t really read the book back then… and I didn’t really do any of the programs designed to get me my soulmate. Katherine Woodward Thomas states at the beginning of this book that if you find yourself going months without finishing the program then you have to assess if a loving relationship is really something that you want. I guess back then I still had too many barriers to love. It took me 10 years to finally start and finish Calling in The One. When I had tried previously, I would hit a wall around week 3 of the program and give up.

What changed this time? I took a 100-day challenge to meet a few goals before my 37th birthday and one of the goals was to meet my soulmate. I committed to doing and finishing the program and I really did it. Maybe this time around I am really ready to meet and marry my soulmate. 

How Calling In The One Works

The book is divided into 49 lessons so that you do a lesson every day. She recommends that you carve out 30 minutes every morning to do so. There is the daily lesson reading followed by a practice and a bonus practice. The bonus practices can be done at a later day but this time around I was super committed, so I did both the practices and the bonus practices.

Calling in “The One” By Katherine Woodward Thomas
Will you call in the one in 49 days? This post reviews Calling in The One By Katherine Woodward Thomas.

Activities And Exercises

What kind of practices are you instructed to do in the book? They range from meditations, lots of journaling exercises and a few practical ones like asking someone directly for what you need, forgiving others and so on. I can be a bit lazy, so the meditation exercises were the most exciting for me. I had to push through the journaling exercises, but they were very valuable. I learned a lot about myself from them.

Does Calling In The One Work?

Well, I did complete the 7 weeks of the exercises and drumrolls, please… I didn’t meet and marry my soulmate. However, I am closer to doing so now than I have ever been. I came to realize how limited my view of love is and that I can practice showing love to my family and roommates as I get ready for my soulmate. I am more in touch with who I am and what I need to be happy. My boundaries are stronger.  

I believe the main aim of calling in the one is for the reader to identify the resistance they have towards loving relationships and marriage. For me, it is that I have been feeling I am not good enough and through the exercises in Calling in The One I have come to the realization that I am good enough, perfect even, for the love of my life. And until I am united with my soulmate, I will love myself unconditionally and create a life that lights me up.

The Top Lessons I Learned From The Book.

  1. Practice the love qualities you are seeking in your soulmate on those in your life already. For example, I want a kind and generous man, but I realized that I wasn’t very kind and generous to those already in my life. I have now been working on that. As Katherine says, the only thing missing in our lives is that which we ourselves are not giving.
  2. Give yourself what you want your soulmate to give you. In my case, I need to spoil and indulge myself the same way I expect my soulmate to spoil me. I am now getting used to being spoilt and proudly confess to being a spoilt woman.
  3. You are the only one that will always be with you so you have to give yourself some slack and love yourself unconditionally. From reading the book it is now very clear for me that I will always choose myself and love myself unconditionally. I fight for myself, prioritize my concern and am in my own corner. There is no way I will abandon myself ever again or put myself down in favor of someone else. I am loyal and committed to myself and listen to myself
  4. I am now very determined about setting and enforcing boundaries in order to protect myself.
  5. I have learned to shamelessly ask for what I want and state my position without caring what others think
Will you call in the one in 49 days? This post reviews Calling in The One By Katherine Woodward Thomas.
Will you call in the one in 49 days? This post reviews Calling in The One By Katherine Woodward Thomas.

Memorable Quotes From Calling In The One

  1. A person who wants to create a loving relationship in the near future behaves differently from a person who identifies themselves as being a failure in relationships
  2. We usually get what we anticipate.
  3. It is so important to have integrity with your word. It trains the universe. When we say one thing and then do another, say things that we don’t really mean, or consistently break our word to both others and ourselves, we profoundly diminish our capacity to create the lives that we are hoping to create.
  4. An important part of being marriageable is to be a maker; a person who cultivates a life of beauty, rich texture, and creative work.
  5. The healing and recovery for all addictive behaviors include learning to cultivate a discipline of telling the truth, first to oneself and then to others.
  6. Do you know who usually ends up with great people? Other great people.

In summary, if you want to get married in 7 weeks i.e. by the time you finish this book, I can’t promise that you will. Will the book prepare you to be a better lover? Yes Definitely. My life really is better as a result of reading the book so I would recommend it. Have you read the book? Let me know what you think in the comments below.

How To Set Annual Goals On Your Birthday

Goals for my 38th Year

Birthday Goal Setting 

Birthdays are a great time to carry out a life inventory and reflect on whether or not you are happy with the life you are living. If you are satisfied with your daily life then you can continue doing what you have been doing. However, if you are miserable, then you can change your life by making new goals that would lead you to the life you want.  

This October I turned 37. My 36th year was not pretty; I was unemployed, uninspired and depressed for most of it. Almost no area of my life was working. I am determined to have a better year and never again be in the dire straits I was in the last year. To get different results then, of course, I must do everything differently.  

I also came to the realization that I have never truly savored my life even when things were awesome. I went to college in Switzerland and the UK and looking back now those were awesome days but even then, I would still get depressed! I’ve wasted precious years not savoring my blessings and living my best life. The goal, therefore, is to enjoy every moment I am alive and make every day that I’m alive awesome by design.  

Goal Setting Process 

I used information from the 100-day challenge by Gary Ryan Blair, YouTuber Aaron Doughty, and Jon and Missy Butcher’s Lifebook to set goals for my 38th year. 

Jon and Missy Butcher suggest that you set goals in 12 areas of your life (Health and Fitness, your Intellectual Life, your Emotional Life, your Character, your Spiritual Life, your Love Relationships, Parenting, Social Life, Financial, Career, Quality of Life, and Life Vision). 

I set goals in all the 12 categories, but I focussed on three areas that need urgent attention: My Finances, My Career, and My Character. 

Goal Setting Steps 

During the process of setting goals, I used the below steps: 

  1. I went through all the 12 areas of the Lifebook and exposed and discounted the limiting beliefs I carry in each area (I will cover limiting beliefs in a different post).
  2. Next, I wrote down everything that I want in each life category. I was like a kid who believes anything is possible. When setting goals ask your inner child what they desire in each area. Write down your deepest desires.  
  3. Write your goal in a specific, measurable and time-bound language. e.g. “My goal is to bank 5000 dollars a month by March 1st, 2020” 
  4.  Ask yourself why you must achieve each goal. This is the purpose behind the vision. Why do I want that? What am I going to gain if I achieve that, and what am I going to lose if I don’t? Gary Blair states that purpose is important because it’s what makes you get up in the morning and do the work to change your life.  
  5. Write down your strategies to achieve each goal. I identified 5 action steps for each of my goals. 
  6. Finally, and this is the most important step, I thought about the version of me that has achieved these goals and I became that person. What time does the Kenyangal who makes $5000 a month wake up? What does she eat? How does she speak? Walk? Eat? etc.  

To achieve my goals, I have to be that person every day. I learned this from Aaron Doughty. Many people recommend acting as if you have achieved a goal. This is one step better: Being as if. 

Below is an example of how the final result would look like. These are my goals for my 38th Year. 

Kenyangal’s 38th Year Goals 

  1. I will easily bank 5000 dollars a month by February 28th, 2020 through my writing and business. 
  2. I will easily pray, meditate and read the bible daily. 
  3. I will easily socialize with a friend once a week and with family once a week 
  4. I will easily read and summarise one book a week 
  5. I will easily maintain a constant daily vibration of joy and love 
  6. I will easily weigh 69 kgs by September 30th, 2020 
  7. I will easily get engaged to my soulmate by December 31st, 2020 
  8. I will easily connect with my nieces and nephews once a week. 
  9. I will easily relocate to Canada by September 30th, 2020 

Who Must I Be Daily To Achieve My Goals? 

I am Mrs. MK (MK is the man I have a crush on and would love to marry 😊) these are the qualities I need to display daily to achieve my goals this year. 

1. I must be Prayerful and Spiritually Connected 

2. I must be Successful, Wealthy and Abundant 

3. I must be Fun, Playful and Joyful 

4. I must be Healthy, Fit and Beautiful 

5. I must be Loving, Generous, Compassionate, Forgiving 

6. I must be Righteous, Honest and always do the right thing 

7. I must be Fearless, Bold and Shameless 

9. I must be Committed and Persistent 

10. I must be Self-Controlled and Disciplined 

Well, A very Happy Birthday to me and may I achieve all I aim for this year.   

What are some of the goals you have and who are you being to achieve them? Let me know in the comments. 

I will also constantly update this post with my results.